Author: Andi Dorfman
Title: Single State of Mind
Genre(s): Memoir; Autobiography; Nonfiction
Somewhat amusing, but repetitive and tiring plot
Before I begin this review, I want to say that I really enjoy the Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise because I genuinely have a fascination and appreciation for watching people fall in love. I read Andi's first novel when it released a few years back and I really enjoyed her candor regarding the nature of her engagement and how she rose from a toxic situation into a new and better version of herself. Unfortunately, I cannot say I had as good of a time with Single State of Mind.
This book follows Andi from the moment she arrives in New York City as a newly single and broken-hearted woman in her mid-20s. About the first quarter focuses on her finding her first apartment...well really about finding all the wrong apartments before she finally settles on something that was way out of her budget. During this portion of the book I felt as though I were listening to a girlfriend drag on and on about not finding the perfect home in a place where rent is 4 times what I pay in Florida. Honestly, she came across as high maintenance, annoying, and bitter. Let's just say if I were in the situation with a girlfriend who was complaining to the degree Andi was, I would give her a high dose of reality. This is not to say that some of her stories about the various apartments she came across weren't hilarious. Because there were certainly moments that made me laugh out loud. But the humor was quickly over-shadowed with her pretentious attitude.
For the rest of Single State of Mind, readers follow Andi as she attempts to go on a journey for love. I say "attempt" because it really feels like we are following her as she decides to hook up with any hot man in sight. There doesn't seem to be a true desire for her to fall in love, rather her desire seems to involve sexual escapades with a multitude of athletes and physically attractive men around the country. Now I am all about a woman getting what she needs physically, but when said woman tries to play it off as finding love when it is clearly a search for a string of rebounds to get her ex out of her system, I tend to get a bit frustrated. I don't like being sold a story when the plot takes me in a completely different direction. It definitely comes across that during those two years in Andi's life, she lacked most insight into herself and what she was actually seeking. It was somewhat difficult to bear witness to at times, because from an outsiders perspective it was crystal clear she was not on the hunt for a loving, compassionate, and long-term relationship. Again, this is all fine, but it was how she presented her journey that bothered me. Additionally, in "her search for love" I found myself in total understanding of why a lot of the men took off. She comes across as completely one-sided in these relationships and her expectations for perfection are out of this world. There were of course hilarious moments that again made me laugh aloud, but as for the overall feel of this book, I was not a fan of her attitude or the lack of personal awareness.
Andi Dorfman, breakout star of ABC’s The Bachelorette and New York Times bestselling author of It’s Not Okay, returns with this new collection of her adventures as a still-single gal surviving and thriving in New York City.
Sharing moments like finding her first New York apartment (the front door broke so she had to use the fire escape), her first dates on “celebrity Tinder” and finally, watching her ex-fiancé propose to another woman on Bachelor in Paradise, Andi Dorfman doesn’t shy away from pulling back the curtain on the life of a reality star who’s returned to reality.
Dorfman’s supremely relatable personality has inspired incredible devotion from her fans, who follow her every move on social media. Filled with a mix of romantic mishaps, city adventures, and, of course, plenty of insider Bachelor details, Andi’s new book is Sex and the City for the reality TV generation.
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