We've all played the comparison game at one point or another. But instead of striving to be like everyone else, why not try to be your own #GOALS?
In this refreshing, yet straightforward, guide, bestselling author, writing coach, and personal development junkie, Kristen Martin, puts her personal and professional learning experiences on display for your benefit. Concise, witty, and relatable chapters and exercises make for an engaging and easy read, ultimately helping you to:
* Discover and defeat your fear-based thoughts, self-limiting beliefs, and self-sabotaging behaviors
* Overcome toxic energy, relationships, and situations that have been holding you back up until this point
* Evolve into the person you were destined to become and live the amazing life you've always dreamed of
If you're ready to get out of your own head, stop playing the comparison game, reclaim your self-worth, and walk in your truth every single day from this moment forward . . . this book was written for you.
1 out of 5 stars
For those who are unaware, I am a doctoral student in clinical psychology. I also have two Master's Degrees in clinical psychology. Therefore, when I read personal development books I am reading them with a well-trained eye for bullshit and plagiarism. Prior to reading Be Your Own #Goals I had followed Kristen Martin on YouTube and Instagram where she exudes confidence and a willingness to help other writers and women. I'll admit, I fell for her charm which led me to purchase her book.
Going in I had high expectations to feel really excited while reading her book given the way she presents herself on social media platforms. Unfortunately, I was met with a heaping load of disappointment and there are several reasons for that. For one, Kristen sells a writing program that costs over $2K, yet there were a multitude of grammatical mistakes throughout her book. Being an Indie author myself, I understand the costs of self-publishing, but homegirl brags about her 5-figure income she should damn sure have a budget for an editor. Additionally, there were a few psychological theories that she pulled from (likely from a quick Google search given the lack of explanation) and she paid no credit to the psychologists who developed the theories and interventions. If you are going to write a personal development book based on personal experiences that is completely fine. But as soon as you start introducing psychological concepts that other people spent YEARS developing and perfecting, DO NOT plagiarize their work because that just makes you a total prick and unbelievable to us professionals in the field.
When reading personal development books I tend to look for universality. How can this book relate to the widest range of people? Well I can tell you that Be Your Own #Goals contains a specific chapter that is highly un-relatable to many people. Kristen discusses the idea of spending money to further her dreams and how she did not make the progress she was looking for until she spent money on a business coach. First, I find this a bit suspicious because in all the videos I've watched of hers and throughout her book, she never credits the actual mysterious business coach that she talks so highly of. This chapter honestly just felt like a disingenuous plug for her own writing program, Valiance. I understand marketing, but when an author markets their other platforms within the body of their book it pisses me off that I essentially paid for an advertisement. There are also very few people who can pay for a business coach or a writing coach, especially at the astronomically high rates she has her programs for. Instead of writing that chapter on spending money, it would have made more sense for her to discuss spending time and energy on passion fueled projects. Both of those things are universal and would prevent those who are not economically stable from feeling even more discouraged.
Finally, Kristen claimed the theme of this book was to encourage others to live their own version of the truth. I mean shit, it's on her cover. I didn't feel that this theme was carried throughout the book. Instead, it felt like each chapter was its own loose idea that related to her personal journey. It lacked an overall coherence and once I finished reading it, I questioned if she even answered her claim of the book being a guide to reclaiming self-worth.
It is sad to say that this book has fallen into my will never recommend pile.