Polish the Tarnish
We're all diamonds in the rough. But with a little polishing we can become
the very best versions of ourselves.
It's time to shine!
the very best versions of ourselves.
It's time to shine!
Hey there friends!
Today I made a huge decision. Well, maybe not that huge but as a millennial it probably ranks pretty high. I have decided to delete ALL of my social media platforms, excluding this blog and my YouTube channel. I am saying goodbye to Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.
WHY am I committing this cardinal sin?
Because social media is literally sucking the life out of me. As I mentioned in my first post, the past few years have led to enormous amounts of reflection and self-growth. I am nearing the end of a chapter in my life and I am so ready to start the next one. To provide a little background, I have suffered with waves of anxiety for most of my life. Although it sometimes evades me, there is usually always a reason for the anxiety. The past week has left me feeling anxious although everything in my life is going exactly as I would want it to. Well almost. But the anxiety still came. So I decided to do a little experiment by attending to the anxiety and seeing if there was a pattern of behaviors or thoughts that precipitated it. The pattern ended up being social media usage. Shortly after I'd finally put my phone down I would start to feel anxious, which would immediately direct me to pick my phone up again and time warp myself into the black pit of social media.
Once this realization hit, I started paying even more attention to the thoughts I was having while engaging in social media. And wouldn't you have it. Most of them were self-deprecating.
"I'm not skinny like her."
"Why doesn't my business account grow like theirs does?"
"I should be doing more with my life."
"Why am I such a slacker?"
These aren't exactly the type of thoughts that are conducive to self-growth and self-love, right? HELL NO. So I thought about it. Should I continue to engage in this behavior that makes me think terrible things about myself and leads to anxiety attacks or should I rid myself of it? To be honest, I've had this realization before. Many times. But I was never in a place to make the jump. I was too afraid of missing out on what the world had to offer. In this newfound version of myself though, I have become brave and willing to go against the grain of my entire generation. I am brave because I have to be. I have no other choice. Unless I want to sit in a pit of despair and keep hitting my head against the same wall over and over again. I don't deny the advantages that social media has offered the human race, but I heavily acknowledge the cons of what social media has done to human contact.
I often go to dinners with my husband. During dinner we've always had one rule. No phones. We sit and watch entire restaurants full of people staring at a bright screen when a live, breathing, real human is sitting right across from them. I made a promise to myself a long time ago that I'd never be one of those people. And I broke that promise over and over again.
But not anymore.
I am done. And you know what? It feels SO good.
Am I still scared that I'll be missing out on something? Of course! But I'm also confident in my decision to choose reality over carefully calculated posts and images. I am super excited to see how much I can get done without the distraction of scrolling. I'm also stoked to re-connect with friends and loved ones in a real way. I hope this post inspires you to take a little more time away from the screen and use it toward something that truly makes your heart sing.
Hey there friends!
In this introduction post I want to share a little bit about my journey with this idea--Polish the Tarnish. I also want to share a bit about myself and what sparked this idea in the first place! Let's start with the former.
Polish the Tarnish started off as a podcast where I shared a lot of my insights and thoughts about life and the difficult parts of it. BUT it was hard for me to keep up with because the expense of a podcast can be a bit much since I am a graduate student. Then it shifted to a video series on my YouTube channel, but it was difficult for me to fit the filming and editing into my channel's scheduling. I wanted a forum where I could produce consistent content for my readers because the topic of personal development is very near to my heart. As an author I have a love affair with writing and I recently had that "der" moment when I realized Polish the Tarnish should be discussed in my favorite method of communication--writing. So, this is me making it happen! Through this blog I will be sharing my life stories related to a variety of topics, as well as some tips and tricks to move toward living a fulfilled life! I'll also likely share pictures of my adorable children...fur children that is! Human babies are postponed for the time being due to school.
Okie dokie! Let's do this shit. SO. My name is Brianna Remus. Obviously. I am a fourth year doctoral student in clinical psychology with a specialization in medical psychology. I have two master's degrees in clinical psychology and you will eventually find out why I have so many degrees (I didn't take the traditional route). I've always been a sports player. Tennis was and still is my absolute favorite, but I recently picked up CrossFit. Health is very important to me, although it has been quite difficult for me to stay consistent with healthy eating habits because I love carbs to cure my grad school blues (don't try this at home kids). BUT I am working hard at making some positive changes in the diet arena, so if you have any consistency tips let me know. I've been married to my incredibly amazing husband for two and a half years. We have three dogs and a cat (our house is a farm). I'm a scorpio with a hard tendency to be brutally honest and forever loyal. Some hobbies include painting, writing books, playing Dungeons and Dragons, watching movies on repeat, and walking my pups.
Getting into the nitty gritty, this past year (past 3 years really) has been incredibly difficult, but so rewarding in the growth I've made. Throughout this journey I have discovered a high appreciation for learning from others and sharing my own story. In psychology we have a principle called universality. This essentially means that by letting someone know he/she is not alone in their suffering is incredibly therapeutic. In addition, sharing methods of growing out of suffering is even more beneficial. That is exactly what this blog is about. I will be sharing my stories and how I have grown from them OR how I am still learning to grow from them (I am by no means an expert on being human). Through this, I hope to help people through the universality principle. I have felt utterly alone at various points in my life and if I can prevent that feeling for even one person, I would feel accomplished in life. I'll also be discussing a variety of topics related to my training in psychology and personal experience for moving forward to live a fulfilled life while continuing to grow.
This blog will be inspired by whatever touches my heart at the moment, so there won't be an order to things unless it's specifically inspired to be a series of posts. PLEASE comment on posts you find engaging because I love chatting with people (hence my profession) and communication is a major key to success.